a little looksie

so today im off work and i feel like sending a message to those of you boys out there who havent the slightest clue when it comes to women. i know we can be complicated, sometimes i dont even get me... but im going to write and write until something starts to click, and hopefully y'all learn something new.
so. where to start. i guess there isnt really a definite start point... but oh well. we'll ramble.
when you like a girl...
every girl is different, but im going to express to you what i have observed through both personal experience and in conversations with my very close girlfriends.
in order for a girl to fell for a guy, he has to stand out. not like bells and whistles and look at me im important. no. thats WRONG. cockiness wont get you the girl. start small. if you arent good friends, and communication is rare, smile at her or say hi to her one day, she'll notice trust me.
dont forget to work at your own pace either, if you're not comfortable having a full blown conversation with her yet, dont worry, take it slow. once you've become acquainted and you feel comfortable talking to her, find a way to squeeze yourself into a conversation with her. now this takes courage for some, but for others its a sinch, so again work at your own pace.
and dont be afraid if you think youre gonna say something embarrassing and she'll think youre really dumb, she'll probably end up thinking the exact opposite. she just might think it's cute!! (i would, if i were even remotely interested) this shows her that you're nervous and thats not always a bad thing. the fact that she makes you nervous means you can be vulnerable. so cute. but being a man is still important haha
but like i said every girl is different , so she just might think youre weird (personally i think that if this is the case, she doesnt deserve you. but idk, im no proffesional)
ok. back to earth here, she's giggling at you cuz you said something dumb.. youre in!! alrighty, now start trying to work your way into her group of friends if you havent already. dont be stalkerish and ask her out on a date yet. too fast. a woman likes to be chased, she doesnt like to be smothered. be her friend first. then once you notice a tiny spark of interest, make your move and ask her out.
ok, you're on your way to pick her up. go to the door, dont text her and tell her youre at her house. manners. knock on the door and walk her to the car. OPEN THE DOOR. thats a biggie. most girls that ive talked to, notice the door being opened. its the oldest trick in the book, seriously. pull her chair out for her too if youre going to dinner, another old trick.
ok great time has gone by and youve been on several dates. things are going GREAT! you really like this girl. and youre thinking she probably likes you too. ok show her you like her. the friends stage is in the past. break the touch barrier if you havent already. not necessarily hold hands yet but maybe touch her back when she's walking into a door you're holding for her, or offer her your arm when you go for a walk. whatever you feel comfortable doing. but dont wait too long, cuz if she did start liking you and you wait too long before breaking the touch barrier, she will think youre just a flirt and you dont like her after all. not cool bro.
ok now you know you like eachother. fast forward. youre now dating. dont just all of a sudden assume that she knows you like her. BAD idea. remind her how you feel on a regular basis, cuz if youre not saying it you may as well not feel it either. showing her is important too, but communication is KEY! there is nothing that bugs me more than a relationship that lacks communication. lines get blurred and feelings are hurt. if you love her smile, tell her!! if she's got a goofy laugh and you think its cute, tell her! let her know you care, or she will assume you dont, regardless of how close you are at this point.

idk what else to say... so i guess ill just review. dont be stalkerish, give her her space at first, but once you know she likes you and you like her, make sure she knows it. text her first, compliment her, play with her hair, be spontaneous, take her on dates. be a man!!!!

i realize this post probably makes no sense... hah but oh well, it let out a little bit of my frustration i suppose. boys, get out there and be men!!!

later days